Below are a few pointers to help you get started during this difficult time.
Remember, you can contact us before you register the death. We will then guide you every step of the way. We are at the end of the phone seven days a week.
DEATH AT HOME
Inform the family doctor of the death as soon as possible. He or she will then attend and (if there is not going to be a coroner involved) will give you a medical certificate of cause of death. Sometimes the GP will ask you to visit the surgery the next day to collect it.
DEATH IN HOSPITAL
When a death occurs in a hospital the procedure is similar to the procedure at home. A medical certificate of cause of death is available from the bereavement suite.
In some unexplained cases, or where the deceased hasn't seen a doctor in the previous 14 days, the Coroner's office will take over. After staff there have completed their work (there might or might not be an inquest, depending on the circumstances) they will release the relevant paperwork to the Registrar's office.
If a death occurs away from home and not in a hospital or care home, you will probably be informed by the police. Officers will help you find a local funeral director. They should also ask if there is anyone who can be with you at this traumatic time.
INFORMATION NEEDED BY THE REGISTRAR'S OFFICE
DOCUMENTATION NEEDED BY REGISTRAR'S OFFICE
It is important to remember a death MUST be registered within five days.
Registration of death is usually carried out by a relative of the deceased.
This must be done at the Registrar's office. It's best to ring and book an appointment. This will give you time to sort out relevant documents and gather required information.
YORK REGISTRATION OFFICE is at:
56 Bootham, York YO30 7DA
Tel: 01904 654477
ARRANGING A CHILD'S FUNERAL
We carry out funerals for children free of charge. We are here to guide you through all the arrangements, every step of the way. Please bear in mind, there is no right or wrong way to feel. Everyone is different. Take your time making decisions and choices and don’t be afraid to think things through.
There are, of course, a wide range of ways you can personalise arrangements (such as different coffin choice) and these will usually be chargeable items.
Invoices for funeral costs that we pay to others on your behalf, including church or cemetery fees, grave digging, press announcements and floral tributes will be sent to you after the funeral.
There are many ways you can participate in funeral arrangements; you can be involved as much or as little as you feel comfortable with.
Please don’t be afraid to ask us anything. It may be that you wish to be involved in dressing your child, carrying the coffin, filling the grave or designing the service. It is not unusual following the loss of a baby to organise a photographer or have tiny plaster casts made of his or her hands and feet.
We are here to offer guidance and support at what we know is an incredibly difficult time.
Grieving for a child is often a very long process. Many bereaved parents find talking to each other about their feelings a big help. Some find they need spiritual and/or grief support from a minister or experienced bereavement or relationship counsellor. Others draw comfort from bereavement groups.
When there are other youngsters in the family they too can feel very sad and confused about the death of a sibling. Parents usually find it helps to be honest and open from the start.
Children sense when there is something wrong and when their parents are upset. Making time to sit quietly with them and tell them the truth in a loving, gentle way seems to help. Even younger children are often able to understand in their own way, more than we might expect.
Children can be comforted when they feel included, when we allow them into our own grief and explain why we are hurting.